How to Guide Your Child Through Life’s Big Changes
This year has been full of change, new information, and adaptation for all of us. As a country, as businesses, as communities, as...
How to Guide Your Child Through Life’s Big Changes
2019: A Year of Growth at OCSS
This year has been full of change, new information, and adaptation for all of us. As a country, as businesses, as communities, as families - we have all had to become flexible, adaptable, and to continuously change as the pandemic forced new obstacles upon us.
For most, this was hard.
But for children with special needs, children dealing with sensory processing disorder, children battling anxiety, children with Autism, and children with learning disabilities...this was even harder.
Sometimes change is abrupt and sudden, and there’s not much we can do about it. But mostly we can anticipate the changes ahead - and that’s a great thing. It means we can plan ahead, we can prepare, and we can arm ourselves with the tools we need to be successful. And it means that we can help our children to do the same.
As our communities begin to open up again, and life begins to unfold into a more normal version of itself, we find ourselves suddenly making plans. Preparing for the future. Going back to work, to school, to social events. We find ourselves in the middle of change. Lots of it.
So what can we do to prepare our children, especially those who are struggling, for the many changes ahead?
Talk. One of the simplest and most obvious ways to guide children through change is to talk about what’s ahead. This can help them to feel in control, which in turn helps them act in control. Feeling in charge of our lives can be empowering during times of uncertainty.
Here’s a great script (by Dr. Becky Kennedy) that is so helpful in breaking the ice and opening up with children about change.
There’s so much going on right now!
The school year is ending, the summer is beginning, lots of other changes as well.
You know what I like to do when things change?
Name what is changing, and say what is staying the same.
Let’s do that together, let’s make a list!
According to Dr. Kennedy, when we approach our children’s feelings with a goal of understanding them, rather than changing them, things begin to stabilize and feel better for all of us. So beyond talking about how things are changing, or what changes lie ahead, you can take pen to paper and take this strategy a step further. By making a list of all the things that are changing, as well as all the things that are staying the same, we turn big feelings and thoughts into concrete words. This process can be very grounding for both children and adults. Your child might not necessarily feel better when finishing this list, but you are providing them with a space to make sense of uncomfortable things, and do feel safe doing so. And when a child feels safe, they are more likely to display regulated behavior.
In addition to talking or writing about change, our OC Speech Services therapists have some great tricks up their sleeves for preparing children for change in a developmentally appropriate and engaging way.
Sensory and social stories are wonderful for children who need a simple visual story, tailored to their specific experiences. These stories can be customized to each child’s needs or situation. When we tell a story with simple terms and simple pictures, the child can hear about the changes, see pictures of what things might look like, and see concrete strategies for coping with overwhelming feelings that accompany change.
Games are another great way to turn something uncomfortable into something fun! For example, for those preparing to head back to school, “Back to School I Spy” can be a fun way to talk about what to expect from a new environment and a new schedule.
In our clinic, we utilize many transition strategies that we have found to be helpful. We use visual timers, sensory breaks, consistency/structure/organization during our sessions, practicing through social stories, using a transition object or toy, and visual schedules and planners. We follow the lead of each child and their specific needs, create a space where they feel safe to explore and discuss changes ahead, and provide them with the tools they need to cope in new situations.
We cannot fix a child’s fear of change. But what we can do is listen, understand their concerns, and give them the tools they need to process life’s big changes...so that they can feel empowered to venture out into the unknown.
Updated: Jan 13, 2020
2019 was a big year for us at Orange County Speech Services! We grew, our clients grew, our contracts with insurance companies expanded. The theme all around last year was growth, and for that we are so grateful. The work done in our clinic is rarely easy, but when we work together as a team, we see growth. We see movement. We see change.
We see new foods eaten, new words spoken for the first time, haircuts being tolerated, shoes being tied independently, bikes being ridden for the first time, new friendships formed, first steps taken, new goals being met, and many clients graduating and moving on. Don’t get me wrong, we also see things like tears being shed, tantrums and fits, struggles, complications, and even failures and setbacks. The journey is not always simple or linear, and we often find ourselves adapting to each child’s needs to find what works best for them, and thinking outside of the box to find new ways to meet goals and make change...but the effort from everyone involved gives us such a beautiful and important result: growth.
Not only has there been growth within our client’s lives, but growth within our therapist’s lives too! All of the work we do in our clinic would not be possible without our amazing team. Our lovely therapists are very good at what they do, and they work so hard for these kiddos. Miss Dana and Miss Emily had their babies, Miss Alex got married, Miss Natalie got Engaged, we welcomed new therapists onto our team, and we eagerly await the birth of our 2020 baby by Miss Nicole. The growth within our team is incredible! In addition to personal growth, our therapists continue to grow professionally by attending staff developments, trainings, and specialized workshops.
We are always learning, and always growing.
Our clinic, where all the magic happens, has grown too. We built four new rooms to accommodate our growing client list. We secured new contracts with Greater Newport Physicians, Regional Center Infant Development Program, Tricare, and Blue Shield PPO...which means more children have access to our care. More children have the opportunity for growth and change. More children have the chance to make life-changing goals, and then meet them, and exceed them.
We are in awe of all of the growth we have seen this year. From our clients and their families, from our therapists and staff, from our ever expanding clinic. This team we have created to help children is working together in a way that we never imagined. The collaboration, determination, and partnership between everyone who walks through our door has created a space for success, change, and growth - and that alone is reason to celebrate.
Thank you for being a part of this year, and this journey. Thank you for being part of what makes us grow.
Happy New Year, from all of us at Orange County Speech Services.
This year, some of our therapists at Orange County Speech Services attended and participated in “Family Autism Night” at Pretend City Children’s Museum. What a wonderful time we all had! We sang songs with the children, talked with parents about the significance of music in language development, met new families, and answered questions about pediatric therapy services.
Family Autism Night is a free autism resource for families in Orange County. This event (which takes place on the last Monday of each month) is a great opportunity for families with children of all ages to have fun in an autism friendly environment. This event is fun and beneficial for both children and their parents. It provides a supportive environment for children to play and explore while connecting parents with resources, specialists, encouragement, and new ideas.
We had such a great time partnering with Pretend City at this event, and we were so happy to connect with new families and provide a space for people to come for support.
To join in at the next Family Night, click here.
We hope to see you there soon!